breadandroses

I read a fair number of LJs of people not my friends. I started off trying to find stories that these people had written, but I've become fascinated with many of their lives. Maybe I've gotten a bit too involved.

One of these women, a smart, funny, talented and seemingly irrepressible person, just lost her husband to suicide. I believe they had only been married for a few years, and they had learned she was pregnant only a few weeks ago.

A friend of hers, commenting on this tragedy, said that she loved [this guy] but if he were here she'd like to beat him up for all the collateral damage he's done.

I've felt that way myself a number of times. I've seen suicide destroy the lives of family and friends. Thank G-d I've never lost anyone I cared about this way, but many of my dear friends have, and they will not get over it. Not ever.

If anyone who reads here is thinking about this, just don't. Don't you fucking dare. There are people who love you and they do not deserve it. Talk to me, talk to someone, find ways to fix it. But you do not have the right to wreak that kind of devastation.

I need a book or books. They must be relatively small and available in paperback, and they need to be literary candy. Nothing I need to work at, nothing that takes time to get into. Readers: which are the books that you read brushing your teeth, and under the covers late at night?

Recommend to me...
1. a movie
2. a book
3. a musical artist, song, or album
4. a LiveJournal user not on my friends list
5. what I should have for dinner
6. a web site

...and put it in a comment and then put this in your journal

"I have spent most of my life (like most people) avoiding transcendence at all costs, mainly because the shit hurts. Merely defining transcendence can sometimes be painful. I once heard that "Transcendence is the act of going through something". Ouch. I see plate glass windows and divorces. Someone else told me that it was "rising above whatever one encountered in one's path" but at this point in my life that smacks of avoidance as well as elitism of some sort. I am compelled to look back on years of going through, above, as well as around my life looking for loopholes to redefine everything including any and all of the ideas that I have held close to my heart along the way - Art - Freedom - Justice - Revolution - Love (a big one) - Growth - Passion - Parenting (a really big one) - and I find that for me, for now, transcendence is about being still enough long enough to know when it's time to move on. Fuck me."
—Steve Earle (Chicago, January 2000)

And because I couldn't pass up the title: Love that dare not squeak its name.

create your own visited states map
or write about it on the open travel guide



create your own visited country map Rather boring. I tend to stick to where I can speak the language, but I think I need to get over this- far too many green places.

You are Kathleen Hanna! Poster child of the riot
grrls, you've grown up a little in the last few
years. You've brought rape, feminism,
sexuality, and wymyn surviving hard shit into
the mainstream through art, music, and
spokenword. You're PUNKROCK! But, like, for
real.


Which Western feminist icon are you?
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